Total Commitment & Opportunities

Earlier this week, Tuesday 13th November 2012, Croz Crossley did a post on Facebook that set me off thinking. Finally it got me writing. At first I was just writing for myself but as the piece developed I began to think that perhaps I should make this an entry on my own blog. It relates to my own personal experience and it’s definitely on topic.

But first who is Croz Crossley? Well, in order to make my own writing make any sense I am going to have to quote Croz’s post in its entirety so in fairness to him I give full credit to his writing and I am providing direct links to both his Web site and his Facebook page. Therefore the first link is direct to Croz’s “About” page which will answer the question about who he is. I’m sure many of you will already be familiar with him but if not then go HERE and then explore his “Worry Free Life” Web site.

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To begin then – The Facebook Post:

Croz Crossley – ( http://www.facebook.com/croz.crossley )

Thoughts from Worry Free Island: What is it that gets us started on a project, an adventure, a change of life etc..?

Having given this some thought, so many people say, “I will do it when things are right.” In my experience, things will never be exactly right to make major change or make big decisions. So what is the catalyst to moving on?

There is only one thing that will guarantee that you will do something outside the box, and that is TOTAL COMMITMENT, not “That sounds like a good idea”, or “Yeah that sounds like fun”, but I am doing this NOW and I am going to just let things pan out in front of me.

In every situation that I have known where someone has made a genuine commitment to do something, magical things happen to move them forward. It seems that once you are focused and committed, the opportunities and people that can help, appear at exactly the right time.

Opportunities are always there, but it is not until you are clear as to where you are going that they become obvious.

Trying to work out what will happen and HOW things are going to happen will keep you stuck in one place, because if you knew how to get to the new place, you would already be there.

Tip: Do not let fear of the unknown stop you having an adventure.

Croz Crossley – 13th November 2012.
( http://croz.com.au/ )

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So, Now we move to my thoughts (David):

OK – Back in 2000 I believed what he says. With that belief system Katarina and myself undertook our big adventure. In the summer of 2001 we started our new life in Sweden with that TOTAL COMMITMENT and the sure knowledge that we were unstoppable.

At first, whilst still in the UK it really did function as Croz describes. It was as if everything took on a life of its own. The momentum was astonishing and we just seemed to be swept along. Everything just fell into place. People, events, coincidences. It was fantastic and exhilarating. Our new life beckoned and we couldn’t wait.

We landed in Sweden and drove north to our much longed for new home. Then just as quickly as the momentum had started, everything stopped! Worse, as time went on it actually went into reverse. Not only could we not achieve anything, we seemed blocked and deliberately restrained. It was so strong it felt like a real physical thing. Held back, we just seemed to be falling further and further behind. It was a downward slope that seemed to have no end.

Five years later we left the ‘dream’ home, now not such a happy place. Moving did help to break the negativeness that had befallen us but inevitably we have had to spend so much time recovering from the damage done during that period that only now can we breathe a little easier.

What happened, what went wrong? I’m still not absolutely sure. No doubt I massively underestimated some of the challenges we had before us. And now it’s obvious I didn’t know the new environment anywhere near as well as I thought I did. Never-the-less, it was a really strange experience and has resulted in me holding somewhat qualified opinions about these ‘opportunities’ and ’so-called magical things that happen’ matters. Also I no longer have the same conviction that Croz exhibits in his post.

Still, he’s right about one thing. I still endorse his final tip with gusto. Do not let fear of the unknown stop you having an adventure.

Is there a meaning in any of this? Does it change anything Croz has said?

Not a great deal. I don’t think so anyway. Perhaps it adds another dimension. Certainly for me at least, given the experiences that Katarina and I had, my opinion has been modified. Modified in the sense that what happens and what we get might be totally different to that expected or desired.

Croz has said, I quote:

“In every situation that I have known where someone has made a genuine commitment to do something, magical things happen to move them forward.”

It’s those first 7 words that are key here. In 2000 I would have said exactly the same. However, the truth is that I didn’t really have that many case histories to call upon to back up my belief. Well I have my very own experience now and things didn’t pan out anything like we intended or desired.

Did it move us forward? (The second part of Croz’s statement.) That becomes something of a subjective question doesn’t it. A religious or spiritual person might argue, ‘You got the lesson/s you needed at that stage of your life and therefore you progressed’. Well I haven’t subscribed to that kind of thinking for many years and anyway that’s not what we are talking about here.

Croz is specifically talking about ‘opportunities and people that can help’ indeed he is adamant that ‘opportunities are always there’.

“Opportunities are always there, but it is not until you are clear as to where you are going that they become obvious.”

So we are dealing with more practical issues such as real life actual everyday events, contacts and those useful coincidences that do seem almost magical.

Croz says,

“It seems that once you are focused and committed, the opportunities and people that can help, appear at exactly the right time.”

Well, yes they did – when we were in the UK and in the process of buying our new Swedish house and planning and organising the move. In so much as achieving that part of our adventure it was exactly as Croz says. But there was much more to our goal than just moving to a new location. It was also about lifestyle and what we wanted to achieve on a career/business level. That’s the bit that could only be accomplished once we were finally relocated. And that’s the bit that never even got off the ground.

If you could imagine what Croz refers to as, ‘magical things happen to move them forward’ as some sort of energy force, then it was as if this energy force was restricted by a national boundary because it totally abandoned us once we left the UK.

I don’t profess to know what this is about or what it means. I can only relate how it felt to us and the effect it had on our lives. It has changed us. I still endorse the general idea that Croz is putting across. It’s vitally important to have that TOTAL COMMITMENT if you are going to make a major change or big decision but as for the opportunities always turning up – life sometimes has other plans for you.

Things might not “pan out” the way you had planned but there is one thing for sure. CHANGE will happen. There is a saying that one definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things and expect different results. Well to paraphrase that I can say, don’t do something different and expect things to remain the same. They won’t!

Is that good or bad? I don’t know. We certainly changed our lives. Did it move us forward?   Certainly not in the way we expected, except for the change of location, that worked perfect – but our life, plans, ideas and yes our goals are now (late 2012) VERY DIFFERENT.

Post: © 2012 by David Meredith.

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David Meredith
Not An Authority On Anything.
Härnösand den 17 november 2012.
Web Site Home Page: www.dasanka.net
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